A ogni nuova ricerca scientifica – soprattutto su temi ancora poco documentati – vanno dati il valore che merita e la cautela che merita: ma è un fatto che la prima indagine sostanziosa sui figli di coppie gay negli Stati Uniti dice che i figli di coppie gay se la cavano bene come gli altri, e anche meglio. Pensarla diversamente, che è legittimo, richiederà d’ora in poi una forte dose di indipendenza dalla realtà.

In most ways, the accumulated research shows, children of same-sex parents are not markedly different from those of heterosexual parents. They show no increased incidence of psychiatric disorders, are just as popular at school and have just as many friends. While girls raised by lesbian mothers seem slightly more likely to have more sexual partners, and boys slightly more likely to have fewer, than those raised by heterosexual mothers, neither sex is more likely to suffer from gender confusion nor to identify themselves as gay.
More enlightening than the similarities, however, are the differences, the most striking of which is that these children tend to be less conventional and more flexible when it comes to gender roles and assumptions than those raised in more traditional families.